Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Love + marriage

I don't want the importance of marriage to get lost among the "wedding" posts here. While the wedding was fun, the important thing is our marriage. I love being married to Nate. It's the best decision I've ever made. With that being said, I'd like to dedicate a post to the importance of marriage between a man and a woman.

I'm from California and if you haven't already heard, there is a huge proposition in the upcoming election that will greatly affect us all. It's Proposition 8. It has to do with amending the line "Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California” in the California constitution. We do not want this to be amended! Our friends Jeff and Passelly, who are currently living in California, recently posted the consequences this will cause. I'm going to just paste what Jeff wrote because he did a really good job:

1. Schools would be required by law to teach homosexual marriage as an equally viable option as heterosexual marriage. Courses would include in depth sexual coverage and explanation.

2. Churches may be sued over their tax exempt status if they refuse to allow same-sex marriage ceremonies in their religious buildings open to the public. Ask whether your pastor, priest, minister, bishop, or rabbi is ready to perform such marriages in your chapels and sanctuaries. Religions that preach against same-sex marriages may be sued for hate speech and risk government fines. It already happened in Canada, a country that legalized gay marriage. A recent California court held that municipal employees may not say: “traditional marriage,” or “family values” because, after the same-sex marriage case, it is “hate speech.”

3. Religious adoption agencies will be challenged by government agencies to give up their long-held right to place children only in homes with both a mother and a father. Catholic Charities in Boston already closed its doors in Massachusetts because courts legalized same-sex marriage there.

4. Religions that sponsor private schools with married student housing may be required to provide housing for same-sex couples, even if its counter to church doctrine, or risk lawsuits over tax exemptions and related benefits.

We need Prop 8 to pass. If you can vote in California- DO! Nate found an article talking about recent polls. According to statistics, the Yes campaign may be pulling ahead. The article said this was due to the door-to-door campaigning. However, the article also pointed out that it's still too close to call and that the outcome may be highly dependent on television commercials. I was pretty worked up when I read about one of the commercials: San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom proclaiming of same-sex marriage: "It's gonna happen, whether you like it or not!" Is that what America is about? Definitely not. We do have the ability to make decisions for ourselves and to choose to speak out for what we believe.

If you can't vote in California, you can still do your part. It's amazing the influence that blogs and other internet forums can have. Also, you can donate at My mom and dad have been helping with the campaign and my mom said that we have raised over $25 million-- $10 million more than the opposing side! Every little bit helps! My mom also said that when she went to a meeting for the campaign she was told that whether or not the proposition passes, our children and grandchildren will be blessed if we show our support for this important issue.

California has such great influence that if Proposition 8 is not passed in California, it won't be long before other states follow as well. This is something that will affect us ALL!

I think this is such a difficult topic because so many of us don't want to be intolerant of others. However, that is not what this is about. In the fireside for California residents (available here) they said that tolerance has come to mean "condone" instead of love. If we truly want to show our love and support for others, we must stand up for what we know is right.

I hope no one is offended by this post. We are all entitled to speak up for what we believe. However, I think Mayor Newsom was wrong. I think that we do have the ability to control the outcome and whether or not Proposition 8 is passed, we will have made a difference.

This is a site the Church has put together on marriage:

This is the article I was referring to earlier.


Nate said...

couldn't have said it better myself!

David and Shalynna said...

THANK YOU! We are in CA right now visiting David's family and have learned a lot about prop 8. I am so passionate about it also. I want to get a list of names so I can make phone calls from Grand Cayman too. The thing that worries me is that people will think voting yes to prop 8 means voting yes to gay marriage- when it's the other way around. It could be confusing to someone that isn't completely familiar with it, you know?